Deciphering the Meaning Behind a Gift

holiday ornament6You’re in a relationship that’s taking off and you’re wondering if this is it — if this is the one that will lead to long-term commitment. One way to evaluate what you mean to your partner is to look at the gifts he’s given you for your birthday or major holidays. There’s meaning behind the type of gifts you receive, and each one provides insight into how he really feels about you.

Although the monetary value of a gift isn’t always the most important factor, most experts on dating and relationships agree that the man who spends money on good quality (not costume) jewelry is saying something significant to the woman in his life.

According to dating website eHarmony:

Guys who ‘just don’t care’ usually will not spend money on jewelry for their girl. When a guy buys a woman jewelry, it usually means he is committed and in it for the long haul. This is especially true if he buys diamonds….”

UK relationship expert Dr. Pam Spurr agrees:

If he’s given you a nice piece of jewelry then he’s seriously committed to your relationship. Men just don’t give the good stuff unless you mean something special.

The gift needn’t be all that expensive to indicate that the giver values the recipient. What matters more is that care and attention are evident in the selection of the gift. When the recipient opens up a gift that is specific and personally meaningful, it tells her that the giver has paid attention to her wants and needs. It deepens the relationship with an unspoken affirmation: “I recognize your uniqueness and I understand you.”